We all have our New Years activities and traditions – Watching as the ball drops, fireworks burst, kisses and hugs all around… No, that’s not you? Snuggled into bed with your comfy jammies by 10:00 p.m. and asleep by 10:05?! How about resolutions? Do you make them or not?
A new year is seen as a clean slate for some, so with it comes the flurry of New Year’s Resolutions. Some we make public (in hopes of being held accountable by others, right?) and others are kept private (just in case it doesn’t work out). This tradition has always been a curious one to me, well, that and eating black-eyed peas for luck.
It’s the end of February – How are you doing with your resolutions???
Have they made a difference? Any renewed motivation? As you probably already know, you are not alone.
Huffington Post article and Forbes article both reference the new University of Scranton study and they summarize the most common resolutions as well as probability of success (might want to skim past that part). While both are a bit interesting, the summary at the end of the Huffinton Post article and #4 (Enjoy Life to the Fullest) are closer to fascinating.
-less than half of Americans make a resolution
-only 1 in 8 will make it through the entire year
On to the amazing part… Those who make the resolution (regardless of reaching end goal or making it through the year) are 10 times more likely to change their lives.
I like it!
So here is my wonder… Is it more about setting your intentions to the positive and less about setting a specific goal?
I vote for keeping it simple as suggested in the Forbes article, but why sell yourself short with a limiting goal? I love checking things off of my to-do list (doesn’t everyone), but I hate the judgment (all self imposed) that comes with missing an imaginary milestone or deadline.
GREAT read on the difference between setting goals and making a commitment to continual improvement.
My unsolicited advice???
Challenge yourself – Everyday do your best and celebrate the good, the wins and the amazing in your life. Yup, the crap will still be there, so picture that as better too. No imaginary, fantasy world needed. Did you miss a run (or two or three)? OK, you did, accept it and move on (just breathe). Instead of letting the negativity rule your thoughts, remember the time spent playing a game of chase with your little love or that you walked up 2 flights of stairs instead of waiting for the elevator.
Focus on what’s really important – You can ask yourself what the most important thing in life, the year or the day, then focus on that. The book, The One Thing by Gary Keller asks the question “What is the ONE Thing you do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?” Gives us ‘multi-taskers’ something to think about.
Example of a resolution is to ‘Run a marathon this year’ Why? Bored with 5Ks? No?! OH! It’s because you are sick all of the time, stressed out, unhappy and out of shape. When you set a goal of running a marathon, then you only think running 26.2 miles vs. an intention of a healthy lifestyle, then you focus on your food, amount of quality sleep, exercise, relaxation and fun, hobbies, boundaries at work and even how the friends around you are able to support and lift you up.
You set the timeframe – Things that are important may or may not fit into a calendar year. Do what works for your life.